1. Keep in mind that both you and your child may feel uncomfortable talking about this subject. That's okay. You will most likely feel more comfortable once you get started

3. Don't assume that your child does not need to know about sexuality just because of her or his disability. We all need accurate information about our bodies to feel good about ourselves.

4. Telling your child about sexual intercourse or having children will not usually make her ,or him upset, or make them feel left out if they do not have relationship

5. It is okay to set boundaries for your child's sexual behavior, as long as you do so in a way that is clear, open, and does not make her or him feel guilty for being sexual.

6. Be very clear about what can be done in private (such as masturbating) and what can be done in public (such as hugging). This is one concept that often presents problems for people with cognitive disabilities and can get them into trouble.

7. Don't let your child get away with inappropriate sexual behavior. This kind of behavior won't be tolerated as they grow up, and it is easiest to teach it while your child is still young. The same rules should apply to your child with a disability as to your other children (for example, your son should not get away with grabbing your rear end just because he has mental retardation).

9. Seek help when you need it. If you feel you need assistance, contact your local Planned Parenthood, a family therapist, or a school counselor for additional resources and ideas.